This SQL query lets you know where (site name + layout friendly URL) are deployed the instantiated portlets.

select pp.portletId, group_.name, layout.friendlyURL
from 
	PortletPreferences pp,
	Layout layout,
	Group_ group_
where
	pp.plid = layout.plid
	and group_.groupId = layout.groupId
	and portletId like '%<YOUR_PORTLET_ID>%'
;

Replace <YOUR_PORTLET_ID> by the portletId.